Let Love Lead
… In Our Relationships – Part II
Scripture Reading: 1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Key Verse: Ephesians 5:33
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
In a perfect marriage, the husband loves his wife as much as he loves himself. Such a love would make it easy for a wife to respect her husband.
Unfortunately, we do not have perfect marriages because we do not have perfect love. However, God’s perspective does provide a perfect goal for us to shoot for.
A great challenge in our marriages is managing the frustrations we feel in reaction to our spouse. If we let our emotions lead us, then our relationship can often be very chaotic and draining.
Living on emotions is like a roller coaster… up and down constantly. Living with such an emotional person can be tough.
On the other hand, a non-emotional person can be dismissive of their emotional spouse claiming that they cannot manage the emotional swings. This is a lie of the devil.
We may be stuck with our personalities, but we are not stuck in how we respond to our spouse. I have heard others say: “marriage is the tool God uses to sanctify us”. There probably is some truth to that, though it is not a Biblical principle.
The first thing that a Christ-followers in their marriages must deal with is: “what is going to lead in our relationship with each other?”. If the answer is not a total commitment to letting love lead, then we are always going to face turmoil.
Understand, the definition of true love is not letting everyone have their way. God does not want us to be a door mat to our spouse or anyone else.
However, God expects us to learn that we can manage our disagreements with a spirit of love rather than a spirit of selfishness.
Leading with love, I am able to give my opinions in any situation without allowing anger or selfishness in my approach. When I am consistently prayerful over my responses to my spouse, I have found God helps us to see the proper way to manage conflict.
When we humble ourselves before God and admit our part in the problems of our marriages, God hears us and helps us. Letting love lead in our marriages is so important that we must learn how to make it happen. Sometimes couples need help, and God uses Christian counselors for this process.
Do not let pride stop you from seeking help. You can have a joy filled and peaceful marriage as you learn to let love lead in all aspects of your relationship.
Father, I need wisdom in my marriage. Please grant me wisdom and strength in making loving responses the only responses I give to my spouse. In Jesus’s Name I pray, amen.