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Listening is about actively trying to understand what the person is trying to say

Anger
Go Slow While Angry – Part 1

Scripture Reading: James 1:19-22

Key Verse: James 1:19

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

A good phrase to memorize, especially if you are struggling with angry outbursts: “Go slow while angry.” Go slow in your response to people; go slow in your actions and reactions. For anyone who struggles with anger on a regular basis, they must—with God’s help—put themselves in slow motion!

The scripture for today reminds us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. The secret to all this is the idea of being quick to listen. We often think we are listening, when in reality we are truly only hearing half of what the person is trying to say while thinking of all the ways we plan to respond; not good listening skills. Listening is about actively trying to understand what the person is trying to say. This means we don’t let their words get in the way of our understanding. In other words, all of us struggle to put our feelings into words at times. If you are going to truly “hear” me, I need you to think about what I’m trying to say—even if I’m not saying it very well.

People who practice good listening skills do indeed get angry slower. If we are working hard to understand what a person is trying to say, our minds don’t go to angry thoughts so quickly. (Continued)

Father, help me to remember to truly listen to those around me today! In Jesus’ name, amen.