Habits of Highly Effective Christ-Followers
Have a Win-Win Attitude – Part I
Scripture Reading: Matthew 7:1-14 NLT
Key Verse: Matthew 7:12 NLT
“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”
Covey’s third habit of highly effective people is to approach problem solving with a “win-win” attitude. There is always more than one way to solve a problem and highly effective people think in terms of everyone coming out ahead. They do not think that there must be only one winner.
In conflict with others, “win-win” says that you can listen with an open mind and consider others’ feelings but still resolve a situation so that everyone comes out ahead. In other words, this habit means that you think of ways to help other people as well as yourself.
This habit is consistent with the teachings of Jesus. We have looked at the Golden Rule before; again we can see its importance. It is an easier way of remembering “win-win” problem solving because Jesus’s teaching simply tells us to ask one question of ourselves: what would I want said or done to me in this situation?
It is not hard to remember but it can be challenging. Our human nature can pull us to the selfish side and solve a problem in a way that is to our advantage. Jesus tells us that highly effective people refuse to choose the selfish way.
If you are married, then you daily encounter ways to practice and develop this “win-win” habit. When both partners adopt a “win-win” attitude, they can make their relationship stronger and more enjoyable. It is more difficult, but even if only one of the marriage partners says and does to the other what they would want said or done to them, the relationship gets better.
The good news is that Christ-followers can incorporate all of Jesus’s teachings into their lives as by listening to guidance of the Holy Spirit.
We can start our day by asking God to remind us to practice “win-win” in our marriages, parenting, and other relationships. Since it is His Word that you are praying for, God will honor that prayer request.
Father, I love the wisdom found in the Scriptures and I want to live this wisdom out in my life. Please remind me to turn from any selfish ways and follow the Golden Rule in my life. It is in Jesus’s name I ask this, amen.